It's normal for us to be angry and if you've been pushed too far. But it's also important to release your anger in a healthy manner. There are actually many tips for releasing your anger out there which worked for some, and you just have to find those which can also work for you.
Being angry is just a normal emotion for us humans. But be careful how to express it--for you don't want to cause unnecessary strain into your relationships.
They say you should choose your friends carefully--and that goes for your enemies too. I mean, before you lash out your anger at someone, think twice! Is this person at the receiving end someone you might "need" in the long run? It's a small world out there you know.
Admit it--we all have our bad hair days and those days when we just woke up at the wrong side of the bed. And some of these days when we feel really irritable and bad-tempered that we lash out our anger at just about anybody who crossed our paths. Yes, it's so easy to snap and bring out the tiger within, but have you ever remembered your mom always reminding you that it pays to be nice and at least be diplomatic?
Even if you can't really contain your anger, still try keeping your words as softer and gentler as you can.
“I know how you feel.” This is usually one of the most overused and abused statement if we want to show our empathy for other people. But you should avoid saying this so casually since our feelings are very personal stuff; let’s face it—you don’t exactly know how a person feels at that moment especially if you’ve never been in that situation. The meaning of empathy according to dictionary.com is: “the identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives” and “The attribution of one's own feelings to an object”. Thus, showing our empathy is definitely much more than saying “I know how you feel” to someone.
I had a fight with a colleague once. Well, not exactly the fight you’re thinking, but it resulted in me raising my voice at him and lashed out hotly at him. It was during my tumultuous younger years. I was working on my own, just quietly and independently. Knowing me, I really get pissed off when I’m absorbed in my work and somebody pesters and annoys me with nonsensical matters just trying to get some attention. I mean, it’s okay if it’s work related and if they need help, advice, opinion or anything, but it’s a different matter if that person started ruining your day like a child.
It was not too long ago that I watched the movie “The Devil Wears Prada.” This famous movie from an equally famous book is about an aggressive boss, overly demanding a lot of tasks from her assistant. Then, I recalled a similar incident a very long time ago that was shared to me from one of my friends. This was way before I became a self improvement coach and he shared to me his experience of what it’s like to be under an aggressive boss. It was actually more of the intimidation factor that made him fearful to report to work each day.
Being in a relationship with a person for a long time is not an assurance that he or she will stay with you permanently. The worst thing that might happen is that your partner will not even value the years that you spent together and will leave you without further ado. That particular incident has created feelings of disgust, hatred and bitterness in you and you want to release anger. You can’t forget some cherished moments as you remember the times with so much love that you are just like flying filled with happiness having your partner. Break-up has not come into your mind because you believe years of togetherness will tighten your bond more and more.
When you say anger issues, specifically childhood anger issues, what do you mean? Well actually, contrary to other psychological problems or difficulties some kids have, anger reactions or issues are separate and different. Anger issues and ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) could take place simultaneously, yet may be apart from each other as well. It could also take place when the child experiences learning disabilities. And in these circumstances, the kid’s antagonism is fast to fly into a rage and can be very extreme. For example, if a parent instructed the child not to go anywhere or if a parent says not to do this and that, the child with his antagonism might demonstrate some violent or unruly behavior such as screaming, biting, throwing or hitting stuff at his or her parent/s.
Have you noticed lately that just like movies, internet and books, anger management has also come into our world. Indeed, there are those individuals who can still control their outburst or temper, but anger management counseling is necessary for those unlucky souls who keep on seeing red almost half the time. The realm of anger counseling has already infiltrated the market in a grand way, and more likely, it’s here to stay. Generally, hypertension has been studied to be one of the worst illnesses to come. And one of the reasons is that hypertension causes several sicknesses and sufferers usually resulted without calmness.
Almost all kids most especially toddlers have temper tantrums; it is their unexpected and unintended expression of anger, frustration or simply not getting what they want. And dealing with temper tantrums in children is training them in how to handle and manage their developing emotions. It’s a part of any child’s development stage. It’s most usual in kids with age ranging from one to four. Temper tantrums could take place at any time of the day—may it be during eating time, bath time, or even at bed time. Normally, when they feel hungry, frustrated, stressed, sick or tired they may throw a tantrum.
“Hey, you better need some anger management classes.” Does receiving this comment or suggestion surprises or pisses you off? Relax; maybe that remark just came from some well-meaning friends or relatives who share your best interests at heart and want you to be a better person in making you handle anger in a positive way. And if you think that joining anger management classes is a shame, well think again my friend. On the contrary, it could even be the best gift you can give yourself. Just keep an open mind and think about some of the worthwhile advantages these classes may provide you.
It's normal for us to be angry and if you've been pushed too far. But it's also important to release your anger in a healthy manner. There are actually many tips for releasing your anger out there which worked for some, and you just have to find those which can also work for you.
