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Tags: self improvement, anger management, an aggressive boss
 It was not too long ago that I watched the movie “The Devil Wears Prada.” This famous movie from an equally famous book is about an aggressive boss, overly demanding a lot of tasks from her assistant. Then, I recalled a similar incident a very long time ago that was shared to me from one of my friends.
This was way before I became a self improvement coach and he shared to me his experience of what it’s like to be under an aggressive boss. It was actually more of the intimidation factor that made him fearful to report to work each day. He didn’t know how to stand up for himself to that former aggressive boss.
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Naturally, like all of us humans, we all make mistakes occasionally, and like my friend, he did screw up once in a while. Stan never forgot that moment when he was called for the first time in his office. He was not really the hysterical and noisy kind, but more of the stern-Miranda Priestly-aggressive-boss kind—he just happened to be the male version.
Anyway, The Boss asked something like this (as far as I can remember): “So Stan, what’s this all about?” Stan replied with an apology first, and said something like, “I’m so sorry sir, I’m not really sure what really happened here.” Aggressive boss: “Do you need additional training, Moore?” Now, my friend’s confidence level plummets.
Stan: “No sir”. It was at this point that the aggressive boss transforms into real nasty monster. His voice would suddenly change from being quite calm and quiet to loud and antagonistic. Mr. Terror: “But why the hell have you screwed up Moore? How long have you been working here and how can you screw up? As far as I remember, I don’t pay my employees to screw up.” At that stage of Stan’s life, he can’t find the words to reply to that aggressive boss.
He struggled to find the words, but simply can’t. He felt panicky and froze there just like a child. When we saw each other a few months ago, he relayed this story to me, and looking back, he remarked that that incident in his life made him learned how to be stronger and more determined to keep his cool.
Well after all, who does that bullying boss think he is? Yes, way to go Stan! That’s the spirit—very well said from a former terrorized employee. And if any of you here were facing the same dilemma like my friend, you can say something bluntly like this: “I’m sorry about that.
I know I’ve made an error, and we all do-- but I’ll try better next time.” See, short and sweet but straight to the point.
About the author
The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a highly successful home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem. More info about this “Quick-Action Plan for A More Confident You” is availableHERE.
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