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Tags: self improvement, anger management, dealing with temper tantrums
 Almost all kids most especially toddlers have temper tantrums; it is their unexpected and unintended expression of anger, frustration or simply not getting what they want. And dealing with temper tantrums in children is training them in how to handle and manage their developing emotions. It’s a part of any child’s development stage.
It’s most usual in kids with age ranging from one to four. Temper tantrums could take place at any time of the day—may it be during eating time, bath time, or even at bed time. Normally, when they feel hungry, frustrated, stressed, sick or tired they may throw a tantrum.
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Children can scream, cry, wail, and throw their arms and feet during a tantrum session. More often than not, it can last up to 30 seconds to three minutes and generally the strongest is at the beginning. When dealing with temper tantrums, take note that you are actually educating them about controlling themselves.
So as a parent, first you must know your own child. If you do this, you would know how to act before your child’s emotion will escalate to insurmountable levels. Therefore, you should recognize and identify what are those things or situations which activate their tantrums. When your child is already high in his tantrum glory, you should stay calm and cool and don’t compete with him.
Never ever attempt to reward or bribe your child. Most kids do this just to get what they want—fast. Do not give in to this trick. If he gets used to this, eventually, he may think that this is the only way (and the fastest) of obtaining what he wants rather than behaving well.
In addition, you could also sidetrack your child’s attention into something else for him not to resort to his temper tantrums. This is another effective way of coping with this behavior. You may want to try giving him something else. For instance, if the child likes to get hold of a dangerous object, try offering him some of his favorite toys or give him something to eat.
Also, never mind about those temper tantrums just to get your attention. Some kids are actually successful in employing this trick. Just wait till he calms down, then that’s the time you can give the attention he wants. You could also make use of the time-out tactic. When your child is currently throwing a fit, put him in a private or secluded place then wait for him to cool down.
Talk to him about the whole issue and let him know that it is not proper behavior especially in public. Don’t attempt to talk it out to him while he’s still angry or screaming. However, attend to his tantrums out of frustration. Help and support him on how to deal with being frustrated.
Try comforting him by offering to help or assist him and explain the reason for his frustrations like why he was unable to achieve a certain task. Help him to cope with his temper tantrums in situations like this.
About the author
The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a highly successful home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem. Learn more about this Quick-Action Plan and have a Fabulous Self Esteem.
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