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Mingle With Passionate People-- They Are Everywhere!

Wed, 30 Mar 2011 20:16:01 +0800

If you want to live a passionate life and be a passionate person yourself, then that’s easy! Simply surround yourself with passionate people.

When you mingle and enjoy the company of passionate people, when you talk with individuals who are extremely motivated about what they are doing, about the persons they love and the life they live and how they enjoy it, it can rub off on you and you can’t help yourself but also be excited and be ignited by life--filled with zest and zing! When you do, you won’t even realized how time have elapsed because you’re having so much fun.

Actually, these passionate people not only inspire or motivate you, but they can also be sources of ideas and lessons. They refer you to other inspiring individuals as well, and they even read some self improvement books by individuals who inspire them, and in a way, they pass their ideas to you.

The best part about it? You don’t have to move to a big city like New York, Los Angeles, or anywhere big or happening place just to look for these passionate people. They can also be found on small towns, and you don’t have to give up looking for your own brand of people. For example, you can find some small start up businesses who are doing great things on their own �
and carving their own niche. Then, there are also really creative individuals out there also known for their passions--like writers, artists, musicians.� Or just about those individuals whom you feel that they are truly excited in doing something really well in their vision for life.

Okay, if you can’t find some passionate people where you live, study or work, then for sure the world is not scant on passion-filled individuals as you can also find them on the World Wide Web. Now, that is one place where variety is indeed the spice of life! You can visit their blogs, read about their books regarding empowering ideas and insights to keep you better-rounded and socially aware. You can find some interesting people on forums about a certain topic, and you get to share your thoughts, opinions, sentiments, your two cents worth on just about anything you want to share on.� There, you won’t be limited with one culture, race or gender.

As long as you keep an open mind, you’ve got a cornucopia of passionate people at your fingertips!

About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

Learning The Virtue Of Being Patient

Mon, 28 Mar 2011 21:25:12 +0800

Patience is a virtue, as they say, but many of us (myself included--sometimes) struggle with being patient--or should I say, the lack of it. And some negative things follow when you lack patience. Like say, when a certain person really pisses you off (or you let them), or even the thought of a particular situation about something, then you feel bad, or you can’t focus your attention to what you’re doing or what you are about to do. Not to mention that you tend to compromise your relationships with people--just because you lack the value of being patient.

Okay, just like with anything, it may take time to be patient--perhaps that’s why it’s quite a rare virtue. Especially in these times of almost all things instant-- IM, chats, Text messaging, instant noodles, instant coffee, the works.

For instance, let’s say you’re a newbie and you got your very first job ever--in an office. Obviously, you have no idea what it feels like working with a bunch of professionals in this kind of working environment. At first, it can be quite new to you how to jibe along with your colleagues, not to mention learning new things like your tasks or projects which needs to master. If you are not patient enough, you can get easily frustrated if you don’t master it fast enough or you make some mistakes along the way. However, over time, you can get the hang of things and it does take time to master a certain task.

As for making mistakes, it will also help you learn to be more patient if you ask questions or clarifications from your supervisor or your workmates about your work. So that any errors you have or confusion, it will already be rectified or corrected early on before you have many errors, or else, it will delay the productivity of your organization, or you won’t give a hard time for your office mates ( especially if your work involves stages wherein various tasks are via stages, and handled by different staff).

At times, it can be quite disturbing not to mention uncomfortable if you argues with someone at work. Don’t think that you can simply be overruled just because that employee has already been there with the company longer and you’re just a newbie.

Nevertheless, over time with experience, hopefully you’ll get to learn how to draft your arguments, so that you you can present your case or opinions objectively and briefly. Bear in mind that certain corporate settings can indeed be aggressive or can even be cutthroat. The more exposed and patient you
will be, the better you will be in trying to cope with that kind of environment. It’s comforting to realize that the things you learn through experience will eventually help you to give the patience you need even in the day to day dealings with others, which can be crucial also.

About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

4 Ways To Avoid Bad Thoughts

Wed, 16 Mar 2011 21:15:19 +0800

As it is not a perfect world we live in, that’s why it’s only common if we are faced with many negative and unpleasant surroundings that we tend to have bad thoughts. We are only humans and oftentimes, we may not even be aware that we’re already forming bad thoughts in our minds; here are some ways to avoid them.

1) Practice thinking about what you’re presently thinking about. Yeah, this may be quite confusing, difficult even. But you can save your well being and avoid undue stress if you are really aware that you can really prevent bad thoughts from taking place. Then strongly tell yourself that you are a positive individual, or try, "I am way too good or optimistic for this negativity to let it affect me this way!"

2) Learn the art of meditation--Meditation is said to be the act of living in the present. Most people meditate for spiritual reasons, other people meditate so that to remain mentally positive in the midst of usually negative situation which can propel us to think bad thoughts. And truly, meditation is a great and effective way to block off the negativity surrounding us. Whenever those bad thoughts begin to mount, you can try to stop them by way of meditation by learning those breathing and chanting techniques.

3) Be light-hearted and joke about yourself. I know this can be quite contradictory, but when you feel that you are starting to be plagued by bad thoughts, do the opposite and make light of the situation or what you are currently feeling. Don’t allow negativity to seep within you since some of these bad thoughts can be very nasty and can even stress you out! That’s why if that happens, make a 360-degree turn and try to laugh at yourself or the situation.

4) Try to think happy things. Yes, it can be actually a very empowering and effective way in fighting back negativity and bad thoughts. Think about those things, people or events which bring back happy memories and makes you smile. Or how about envisioning your future and incoming successes and all that make you happy? Excited to hit that beach on your upcoming vacation? Dreaming of a happy family of your own? Getting that promotion? Alright--thinking these positive scenarios actually help you in stopping negative thoughts.

These are just some of the most effective tips in order to avoid having bad thoughts, but if you can, try to stay away from negative people as much as possible.

About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

Break Bad Habits Now With Affirmations

Sun, 6 Mar 2011 14:42:39 +0800

Affirmations can be really helpful to break bad habits if you are persistent about it.

In order for you to really break bad habits you must: a) be aware that the unconscious mind exists and b) learn how to manipulate its existence. And affirmations are great and powerful techniques in which, if used effectively, could bring out and address directly to your unconscious being.

By uttering simple positive statements of the way you wish to live your life, then reiterating them out loud daily, you teach your unconscious thoughts in order to guide you to a better path to be reflected by your whole senses.

You can use:

1) Situational statements: one of a kind affirmations which provide a definite aim in your life.� Some examples are:

a) My heart and lungs are healthy.
b) I am very happy to be earning $120, 000 per year.

2) Timeless affirmations--these are statements which can be made use at any point in your life.

a) My body is healthy and strong.
b) I am so happy in every aspect of my life.

In speaking these words over and over daily, they penetrate into our subconscious mind till it becomes our reality.

Moreover, the positive language of these "feel-good" affirming sentences blocks off negative thought processes, and in effect, fosters positive attitude.

To fortify this belief, each day, every morning, when you get ready for the day, you can try to spare at least 10 minutes of your time in uttering these affirmations out loud. Simply listen to your own voice as you speak these and try to be detached and unemotional as you can.

And lastly, it is very important that you must try to obstruct any negativity and concentrate 100% of your language and attention to the affirmations that you are saying out loud.�

About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

Crying Is Never A Sign Of Weakness-- Ever

Thu, 24 Feb 2011 21:21:28 +0800

When was the last time you cried?

Is it because of frustration, getting the occasional blues, being mistreated, betrayed? Is it a heartbreak, a painful ordeal, physical sickness, problems--big or small, regrets, hurt or someone offended you, whatever it is, you may have your reasons. But one thing is for sure--crying is not a sign of weakness--ever.

I cried when I was heartbroken, I cried when I felt the painful process of grief when someone close to me passed away. I cried when I felt frustrated, because I feel slighted, etc, etc.
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A comforting thought: You can cry whenever you like and wherever! There’s no written universal rule that you can only cry at a prescribed time and
at this place only. Especially for the men, no, men are not exempted from feeling pain, hurt, or grief, and for those who say that crying is a sign of weakness, no way!

Crying is actually a form of therapy and our tears provide healing properties because� it washes away the loneliness, it becomes our companions to the feelings and emotions we currently feel in our lonesomeness. And even the mere act of crying is liberating, because it releases the aches and pains, the suffering, we let loose, we let go of what we feel. may it be tears of joy, of fears or of sadness, there’s no shame in crying.

Trying to suppress your feelings will all the more create resentment and repressed anger, hang-ups and inadequacy to express yourself. You may be scared to look weak, or to look like a failure? But who are you fooling? It even makes you feel like a fake for hiding what you truly feel in order to make you look as if you’re okay--though you feel like you’re breaking down.

Again, there’s no shame in crying and it’s not a sign of weakness--denying and pretending is.� About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

How To Keep Your Worries Behind

Mon, 21 Feb 2011 18:01:46 +0800

Got a severe headache? Then you suspect it’s something serious like brain tumors, or wait...you’ve heard recently in the news that it’s one of the symptoms of dengue. And then you try researching the Internet or browse medical related books for some information. Come on now, you know that for reassurance that nothing serious is happening, or there’s really nothing you’re only trying to confirm...confirm what? Well, you are just trying to look wrong with what you’re feeling. Really, it can be just eyestrain--again.

Nevertheless, the more you read and scour for infos, you noticed, the more you worry. Before you know it, you have already convince yourself that you got a rare affliction. And that your small worrying beforehand has blown up into a giant fear.

Well, we all worry almost some time and it’s a normal human nature. It is our nature to be alert and pay attention to trouble and warning signs instead of good news. However, for a major portion of us, the worrying pushes out of control often. Thus, it already becomes a self destructive habit, rather than a survival tool. As a result, we are on our toes and we fret all the time--may it be about out jobs, school children, health, even the world’s economy.

So how do you keep your worries behind? Though we may not give the ultimate solution, these tips can indeed, keep our worries behind. The idea here is whether or not you could carry out something active regarding your fear. Let’s say if you’re constantly fretting about money, do something about it today: begin by listing what and how much you spend, or you can eliminate your credit card use, or pay off your debts. If you’re worrying that you’re having a huge communication gap with someone you care like your family, then, send an email, or better yet do it the old fashioned way--send a card via snail mail--they will be pleasantly surprised of the effort.

One tiny daily change usually gives you the strength to remove fear, and will let you address it sans allowing it to take control of your life.

If your fears seize you during the day, write them down. At the end of that day, spend 30-45 minutes concentrating on them, and still jotting down any added negative thoughts which may suddenly come to mind. This time, don’t address them--just brood...for now. Studies have attest that most individuals who do this for a few weeks that most of their worries are merely boring and the same. With this realization, it’s then easier to keep your worries behind when you learned to ignore them.
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� About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

Why It Is Better To Simplify

Mon, 14 Feb 2011 17:37:57 +0800

Even in those times of frantic pacing and harried lifestyles, you know that you always have the choice to simplify and do less. It is the solution to almost every aspect of our lives.

To simplify is the answer to your financial difficulties: Shop less and spend less. Don’t try to spend more than what you actually earn. Cut back on your bills and decrease your debt. Rather than trying to handle all your bills and expenses, try to simplify. If necessary, have fewer credit cards, of get rid of your credit card if you have to. Eliminate your financial problems so that you
will have lesser stress.

Got some time management problems? Try to do less and manage less on your agenda and you would get rid of the difficulty of trying to handle it all. Instead of figuring out how to deal with your packed schedule, strive to simplify. Decrease your commitments if you can’t handle it. Decline some projects, meetings and some favors which will only eat most of your precious time.

If you want to end your storage problems, begin to simplify be minimizing clutter. When you have lesser things on your possessions, it means you need lesser storage. When this happens, life becomes less stressful. In the process, you will save a lot of money when it comes to maintenance and storage.

Indeed, it’s not that easy to simplify especially if you’re one of those who hoard most of your stuff but in the long run, will simply accumulate space which you need to store other important things. Simplicity requires the courage to say no to commitments, to let go of your unnecessary stuff, and to be different than the way we always used to do things.

Consequently, you’ll realize that it’s all worth it--less hassles and stress and more efficiency.� About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

Got Time To Read More Books?

Mon, 14 Feb 2011 14:35:20 +0800

Have you still got the time to read more books? Do they only gather a lot of dusts and cobwebs because you don’t care to open them or you simply lack the time to read more books?

You have to accept the fact that you can pick the ones you like to keep on reading--and that you don’t have to peruse everything. There may be plenty of classics and others which claims that some works are "must-read", but then again, you don’t have to force yourself in try and reading more books if you can’t even get past the tenth or at least the 5th page.

What matters most is that you choose to read more books you only want to read and not just you buy a book that everyone is talking about but then you can’t even manage to get on with it!

Here are some tips in what to look for to really know what you want to get on reading:

1) Look for genres which truly interests you. There are several of them--romance, suspense, thrillers, psychological thrillers, horror, sci-fi, fantasy, etc.

2) Search for those written by authors you already know and enjoyed their works.
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3) And those whom people highly recommend you try and at the same time, who like the similar books you enjoy. Of course, you have to understand that not all reading materials grab your attention right from the first page. Give yourself and the book enough time to sink in and be immersed in a subject matter or characters of the book. Don’t rush and be in a hurry to grab a book if you got only a few minutes left to spare, or you have some important agenda to work on first.

Just the same with people, it takes awhile to get to know someone, like you give yourself ample time to get started with a book. But hey, once you’re engrossed or get attached, you’ll find it easy to continue reading.
� About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

Success Is Not Just For The Lucky

Mon, 24 Jan 2011 14:25:51 +0800

Though it’s true that luck may play a considerable part to one’s success, but don’t think that success is entirely for the lucky ones. But so much has also been said about generating your own brand of luck and it’s not a supernatural thing.

If you think that success smiles for the lucky alone, think again. Lots of successful people become where they are right now, enjoying the fruits of their labor by having the right connections. Meeting the right person at the right time, and of course hard work also pays off. Showing up to see what the world has to offer helps also. If you want to make things happen and be ready to face the world of possibilities, then you have to get out of your house and take some extra effort.

If you may think again that sure, he got successful because connections are just for the lucky ones who are fortunate enough to be born on a silver platter and acquired those connections effortlessly by birth. Well, how about those rags to riches story of successful individuals from dirt poor families who never let their poverty be hindered to their goals and achievements? Have you seen the movie " The Pursuit of Happiness " starring Will Smith? It’s actually based on the life of Chris Gardner who rose from rags to riches. It’s actually one of the best inspiring movies I’ve watched by far.

By showing up, you’ve already taken the first step. Some people got it easily, but there are some which takes effort to be where they want. But ignoring the great variance, it doesn’t matter how fast or how long or how easy you got to where you always want to be. The most important thing here is, being there where you always wanted to be. I think success when taken with a lot of trials and challenges along the way, is way sweeter because you toiled hard and when you’re there already, you realized that you’ve come a long way to give this all up and in the end, you’re so worth it!

That’s why success is not just for the lucky.

About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

You Don't Need A Lot Of Things To Be Happy

Mon, 24 Jan 2011 13:22:05 +0800

When you watch TV, read newspapers, hear the radio, or even browse the Net, what do you notice aside from the shows, programs or favorite news you typically frequent?

Yes, advertisement everywhere. And quite ironically, advertisers are also wise enough to broadcast to their consumers and the wide-eyed impressionable public that we do need stuff and a lot of stuff just to be happy.

Yeah, right.

It’s like them telling to our faces that we are incomplete if we don’t buy the latest cellphone model, we’ll be left out if we don’t have the latest gadget, we’ll look unkempt if we don’t have the latest makeup collection/grooming things/toiletries if we don’t have "that" latest item from the collection of that famous actress/starlet/designer. That we stink like hell if we don’t douse ourselves with that latest perfume this and that actress supposedly use (hmmm...she was only paid to promote that product actually for a length of contract. The advertisers sure know how to do their work--actually making us foolish to think that the celebrity really use that brand or thing everyday, as if).

But well, the advertisers are merely doing their jobs anyway and they’re sure paid that much into promoting to their target markets just as long as they make the sale. Anyway, the point is, these people are trying to point at our weakness--which is trying to fill in some places in us that supposedly "we need their stuff" to be happy.

But let me tell that ironically, you don’t need a lot of things to be happy. If you want to be happy, then I’m sure we can augment our happiness levels with our relationships and deeper connections with the people who matter in our lives. Significant others, family, friends, neighbors, colleagues and loved ones will make our stay here on our earthly lives more meaningful and memorable than purchasing that latest shoes. Though I admit that acquiring some possessions indeed may provide that quick-fix to be happy, however, time well spent and� investing experiences with loved ones or even with yourself--that may I say, is sure unforgettable and more fulfilling.

About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

So Who Says You're Not Worth It?

Mon, 24 Jan 2011 11:56:21 +0800

Maybe from your past you were a victim of negative programming . Perhaps you were in your formative adolescent stages, wherein you were only beginning to build your defenses, your identity, your sense of self.

And maybe even up until now! That somewhere somehow, somebody said it in your face: You are not worth it.

Parents, siblings, terror teachers, bullying classmates, jealous ex friends, insecure ex-lovers, envious co-workers, nasty neighbors, or just any random person may have one way or another let you believe that: You’re not worth it; I say, never mind.

Let them believe what they want to believe, but you’re out to prove them wrong!

It’s not a perfect world out there, and not all people we encounter are nice loving individuals, and some may test us, damage our self worth, some are merely distractions, some may even make us learn some lessons in life--though admittedly, we don’t like them, because one way or another, we are entirely different from them!

But allow me to tell you that as your self improvement coach, for all those who implanted on your brain that you’re not worth it (coz you’re just an insignificant entity in the world out to vanish somebody and may not leave a mark--at all,), you always have the choice to let them believe that they’re so wrong in making you feel insignificant to even reach for that elusive star and one day, you’re going to prove them wrong in telling you that you’re not worth it!

So they thought that you’re not even capable of doing what you always dreamed of! You know that way better than what they only think of you. Just you wait, and you’ll see that they’re so wrong, since that’s what they’re only capable of doing--mentally programming some to be like them, coz that’s what they can do best--and nothing else.

You know you’re too good for them--you don’t have to deal with them. Actions speak louder than words--they’ll see.

You are in every inch, worth it--believe that you are your maker’s best masterpiece you know and you just know that you’re simply awesome!

So who says you’re not worth it? Probably some loser.

About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

All You Have To Do Is Say No

Mon, 24 Jan 2011 11:05:29 +0800

As young kids, we were taught to just say no and we do it anytime we feel like it.� Bu as time goes by, we tend to abuse it, so we just say no just like that--no ifs or buts.

Then You Get Older, More Experienced, And Hopefully Wiser.

You learn about manners, good moral and right conduct. You learned� that sometimes you have to compromise, to do things you don’t normally want to do willingly. You realized that other people’s feelings matter; and you need to look at them before making decisions.

What you don’t always get is how to finding harmony between what you can offer to others and also doing for yourself.

It’s great to offer support to others and sacrifice some things once in a while, yet giving your all to everyone eventually won’t work. At some point you’ll be left with nothing to offer. You try your best, but you’ll feel drained and powerless. You’ll attend to them, but it will be sidetracked. You’ll say you don’t mind, but in truth, you do mind. Why don’t you just say no?

You say your time is valuable to you, but its tough when you take in and accept a gazillion notifications and requests from your chats, email, phone and other devices.

You recognize you need to stand up for yourself and say no if you want to be functional or stay sane. Nevertheless you don’t wish to let down anyone, or still worse, leave them frustrated when they need your time and services.

Determine from now on the extent of your services you can provide and until when only. You have to accomplish for yourself and then keep up with them. If someone makes a request which conflicts with your time or that’s beyond your capacity, unless it absolutely demands immediate attention, inform them (nicely, of course) that you’d love to help but you have something already importantly planned.

Whatever it may be, it is significant to you. You could only be supportive and helpful for the people around you if you value your needs as much as theirs. If you truly want to make them happy, do whatever you have to do for yourself because the people who enjoy your company and who cares for you want your best interests at heart as much as you want to be there for them. About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

Are You Guilty Of Giving Unsolicited Advice?

Thu, 6 Jan 2011 12:48:13 +0800

What is an unsolicited advice? It’s an advice given without being asked for in the first place. You may ask, so why is this bad--I only wanted to help? Well, first things first--advice wasn’t being asked or requested. Aside from the fact that you are like, ’prying’ or meddling into other people’s affairs, it’s like putting you--the adviser, in a "one-up" position. It means that "you know" and the other party doesn’t. Otherwise, you will not be dishing out advices, right?

And the other person on the unsolicited advice’s receiving end, makes him in a "one-down" position, so he tends to respond negatively, though on your part, you may mean well and the help was really good. Usually, the person’s response to the unsolicited advice is not even related to whether the help given is good or not. Maybe for them what they’re doing is good enough based on their own standards or through experience, so they don’t need any help at all.

You have to realize that not all good intentions always equal to better relationships or even good communication. Though you might mean well, and you’re offering your help, and you may reason that you’re just being proactive and taking the initiative. And don’t even think that you get hurt or miffed because the other party didn’t appreciate your effort in giving suggestions. It doesn’t always result nicely. Offering unsolicited advice is not really bad, it’s just unnecessary, for me that is.

Next time, it’s always at the best of everyone if people like to hear a suggestion or if they come to you asking for help, before simply surprise them with your "wisdom and sound judgment" just like that--- which may not be pleasant to them at all. In this way, this gives them time and space to share enough information with you.

� About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

Goodbye To The Year That Was, Welcome Aboard 2011!

Sat, 1 Jan 2011 21:07:21 +0800

I still mused and quite reminisced the past year that was in 2010.

I wonder what’s gonna hold for the Year of the Rabbit--2011. Apparently, with all the glorious and festive mood in celebrating New� Year’s Eve Countdown at Times Square, I still continued my mini-celebration alone by cleaning my room. Yes, you heard it right,� ladies and gentlemen; I celebrated by cleaning my beloved cute room.

Yes, time to wash away and sweep the clouds of regrets, pain, hurt, anger, heartache, resentments and bitterness of the year that was. As I look back in the year that was, 2010 was indeed such a maturing, tumultuous and definitely a learning experience for me. 2010 was a time filled with new experiences, lessons to be learned, and a whole lot of new emotions and experiences to get used to: from� grief (the passing of someone very dear to me), to new love and breakup (yes, all in one year, folks), new friendships, new skills, family sickness--whew! Boy, I’m glad I survived through it all and enjoyed some of its fun moments. The joy, the pain, the hurt, the sadness and especially the happiness...aaahhh so long, 2010, welcome aboard 2011!
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This year, I see life with childlike curiosity and wonder. I open my senses on the first day of the the 2010, I opened my windows and greeted the world "Hello" with enthusiasm. Quite a new approach and to start the day--and� right, I should say. How the wind blew welcomingly on my face is a resonating positive response to my cheery greeting.

This day, with leaving (albeit thanking) the past behind, I salute the new day beckoning, arising, arriving. The possibilities are endless and bountiful, and I can’t wait--can you?� 2011 will be on full swing, ready or not!� A toast to a great year ahead of us!
� About the author. Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years. Amy now decided to share her knowledge through this site, Innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free weekly newsletter and learn how to become more self confident and successful.

You Can Let Go Peacefully, Calmly

Sat, 25 Dec 2010 20:40:56 +0800

I can still remember it--the pain of my first heartbreak. I was quite young then and it took me quite awhile to admit to myself that�indeed it was over. You know that feeling of wonder and happiness where the first time you love someone and someone loved you back.�

Where you never had your heart broken--yet.

It had all the relationship red flags--the telltale signs; but I was in denial. Of course, I wanted it to work, I mean we all do.�The calls became inconsistent, rare, very few and far between--till there was no longer.�You can sense the distance (not just the physical distance between you) but he seems distant--even through his messages. He’s�trying to distance himself to you. That he’s deliberately trying to put a wall between you.�He says he’s busy and he can’t find the time. Which kept me wondering, does not have the time--or does not have the heart?�Anyway, cutting the sad story short, it’s all over.

And can you recall in your lifetime wherein you were bullied in school? Well, statistics show that almost half of the American�population have more or less experienced being bullied in their school life---yes, I experienced that too. The feeling of being�inferior and having your self esteem being vanquished by a school Goliath (figuratively speaking, that is).�

Whew, what’s my point in revealing my past misfortunes with you (what a great timing for an article during Christmas)?

My point is, things happen and we all get hurt and we get to experience things, but we can always let go peacefull, calmly.

Yes, I know it’s easier said than done, but that’s the way it is. But you still have to learn how to let go peacefully--at your own time and pace--no pressure here. But it’s the way to healing--yes, the process to let go peacefully is always not a smooth one, as it may be marked and stained with tears, denial, hurts, pain, sadness and the long days (and nights) of loneliness. But these marks will become your tattoo of how to survived the storm, the darkest moments in your life.

That you live to tell you come alive.

But as they say, ueseless it is to feel happiness if you never felt sadness or pain. But experience will teach you valuable lessons in life. It can make you stronger--or you succumb to that mistake all over again; but of course, the choice is always yours.�

But the good news is, we all can breathe again welcoming a new day when we come into terms with healing and let go peacefully.�