Is it because of frustration, getting the occasional blues, being mistreated, betrayed? Is it a heartbreak, a painful ordeal, physical sickness, problems--big or small, regrets, hurt or someone offended you, whatever it is, you may have your reasons. But one thing is for sure--crying is not a sign of weakness--ever.
A comforting thought: You can cry whenever you like and wherever! There's no written universal rule that you can only cry at a prescribed time and at this place only.
Even as adults, coping with grief and loss is never easy--how much more for grieving children? While we talk about how we mourn for the death of our loved ones, so often we overlook how our youngsters grieve and they usually don't know how to cope with loss and it can affect their sense of security.
In explaining grief and loss to grieving children:
Be honest and direct, but also be very gentle. Try not to connect death with "sleeping". Grieving children may misinterpret it and they may ask when the person is going to "wake up".
Try not to tell them that God took away their loved one.
As friends of the bereaved, we usually offer our support and concern by giving them our sympathy greetings. But sometimes, when we haven't experienced grieving ourselves, we tend to give hasty words offering our sympathy, only to find out later on that they're not appropriate.
For our friends who are still mourning for the death of their loved ones, try not to say these to them:
1) "Move on". This is perhaps the most inconsiderate thing to say to someone grieving. Only the bereaved can only tell when he's ready and when he can move on. Grieving must be done on its own time and it may take quite a while (or a long time) for someone to get over, how much more to move on to a loved one's demise.
Grief is a feeling of suffering from something that happens to you. It comes when you have an emotional attachment to someone. For example, you suffer for the death of a family member and not of a stranger you see on the news. Why? The only difference between the stranger and the family member is attachment, because in reality, they are both dead.
We've been used not to accept reality. For example, death isn't acceptable, it shouldn't happen. But who can tell us what is normal and not? Why a “good” thing is normal and a “bad” thing is abnormal? Maybe, we should think about the fact that there are no good or wrong things, there are just facts, there is just reality.
Losing a loved one, especially a spouse, is always painful. The heavy transition from being a husband to a widower, wife to a widow, is a very difficult and sorrowful journey. Aside from the fact that you're losing your life partner, you are also faced with a whole new myriad of questions, adjustments and decisions to be made.
1) It's ok--cry and freely allow yourself to mourn. Who says crying is acceptable for females only? Adults of both genders must be allowed to mourn in their own personal ways. Postponing your emotions by filling everyday with activities could simply defer and aggregate your grief reaction.
The pain of losing a loved one is not the kind of pain that easily go away since you have to adapt to live your life without that person anymore. It's another kind of gradual transition--fortunately, there are various grief counseling techniques to help us cope up with the loss.
Some of the techniques for grief counseling are:
Writing Therapy--writing really helps the bereaved in coming to terms with his loss, guilt, denial, sadness, etc. Grief counseling techniques like this one involves writing a letter to a deceased so that you can let go and deal with any unresolved issues, or finally say goodbye to your deceased loved one.
For grieving teens, the value of availability from their family and friends is what they really need especially in these trying times of mourning and death. When we talk about being available, I mean being approachable, caring, sympathetic and most of all, being appropriate—like stop saying some things offensive and jokes must be minimized—for now. Teens and grieving are two most sensitive issues to deal with, since individuals at this stage in their lives are sensitive, how much more if they deal with the topic of death and bereavement. It’s more helpful if they have an adult caregiver, but their family and close friends can suffice if the grieving teens know that people close to them are always willing to talk to them anytime and no matter what it’s all about, just as long as they have someone to hear their hearts out.
After I turned on my pc to check my mails, the “Bad” news that I saw on Yahoo was the death of Michael Jackson who was barely 50. My initial reaction was death denial. I feel fondness to this person that has caught my attention because of his not so ordinary skill. I immediately read the headlines and look for information that will confirm it and yes, it’s really true. According to the reports, he died due to cardiac arrest which is quite “Dangerous”. His sudden death shocked the whole world. No one has expected this to happen and fans were overwhelmed and are having death denial regarding MJ.
The different stages of grief recovery are never easy, and it’s entirely up to the person how long it takes someone to be on the grieving process. There are different essentials when it comes to grief recovery, and it’s a must to help you to be on your way to recover. Bear in mind that tears and crying are simply part of the bereavement process, so give yourself permission to cry all you want. You can find a safe and solitary place like your room if you need to unload your burden away from the public. If you want, you can reach out for someone over the phone and cry to go through the process of grief recovery.
When was the last time you cried? 
