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Tags: self improvement, grief loss, overcome grief
 This article is from our guest author, Virginie, of www.shinyjourney.com.
Grief is a feeling of suffering from something that happens to you. It comes when you have an emotional attachment to someone. For example, you suffer for the death of a family member and not of a stranger you see on the news. Why? The only difference between the stranger and the family member is attachment, because in reality, they are both dead.
We've been used not to accept reality. For example, death isn't acceptable, it shouldn't happen. But who can tell us what is normal and not? Why a “good” thing is normal and a “bad” thing is abnormal? Maybe, we should think about the fact that there are no good or wrong things, there are just facts, there is just reality.
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Reality is the only thing that exists--to live a happy life, we have
to accept it.
I had a boyfriend of 3 years and I found out he was being unfaithful. I tried to break up with him, but can’t. But then, he cheated once again. Then I finally decided to break up. The first weeks were really hard. I felt depressed, with no goal in life... but after one month, depression and grief faded. I needed time to overcome everything. Why everything? Because this relationship meant a lot to me, I was not in a good relationship with my parents or friends and it was all I had.
But what's the difference between days 1 and 30 after the break up? The only difference was the thoughts in my head, because the situation didn’t change.
I was single in both days.
At day 1, I was thinking that I couldn’t live without him, and at day 30, I was thinking about my new goals.
Reality didn’t change, but the thing that changed was my thoughts about this reality.
Everything you have an attachment on can make you suffer. When you remove attachment, there is just love that stays. Attachment is a selfish feeling, but it's not really bad. I’m not judging, this is just the reality of the feeling of attachment. When I'm attached to something, I don’t see love, I see what I'll lose, what change it will make in my life to lose this thing… So, when you
are able to remove attachment from your life, you experience happiness and freedom…
About the author: Virginie is the girl behind www.shinyjourney.com, her blog where she talks about her life experiences and what she has learnt through her journey. She aims to help you about personal growth, in reaching your goals and happiness!
About the author
Amy Twain is a successful Self Improvement Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals for many years.
Check out her new ebook on how to live your life again after the death of a loved one.
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