Almost all of us have been through a bad situation at some point in our lives. Of course, life is not all bed of roses and not everyday is a happy one. That's why it's a life-saver for us knowing that we're making the best out of a bad situation. Here are some tips:
1) Surround yourself with positive people. Being in a bad situation itself is filled with negativity--that's why it's always good to arm yourself with moral support especially the ones with positive vibe. Maybe all you need is just some venting out your frustrations and unloading your sentiments to another sympathetic listening ear.
2) Keep on going and move forward--when the going gets tough, the tough gets going.
Clearly, being fearful is the major thing, if not the number one factor why we never get to where we want to be. Aside from that, if we are consumed by the things we're afraid of, we tend to:
be afraid of approaching other people we don't know
be fearful that people will (mis)judge you if you're 'somewhat different from the crowd.'
are apprehensive of going after what we really want
and many other reasons you can think of.
Well, overcoming fear is possible. Here are some tips how:
Face it head-on. Never try to prevent yourself to live a fulfilling life just because you've trained your mind through the years of letting negative thoughts to grow into full-blown fear.
You heard it before, what separates champions from losers, or mediocres (for that matter) is, attitude, having a positive attitude, to be specific. Cultivating the right positive attitude is everything, may I say. And why not—since our happiness is at stake here, we might as well incorporate the power of positive thinking. And you don’t even need some coaching just to attain your goals. And I’m not talking about that short-lived and momentary change wherein you make a New Year’s resolution, just to break them the next day. Well, I’m talking about the positive attitude that lasts and that you’re willing to suffer the process just to get to your desired results.
Let me share with you a story I read not too long ago. Once upon a time, there’s a man so successful and happy that people far and wide came to him asking him how he did it. They ask him how he can be so blessed. They point to his loving family, his great job, his financial abundance, to his fantastic friends. And even any curious soul would indeed ask the same things. And he answered, “Just keep planting.” Yes, keep planting seeds—that’s his theory. For him, there are 2 seasons in the universe—the planting season, and the harvest season.
Do you know that your attitude is not determined genetically? Yes—that’s why it’s a good news for all of us since it means that we can train ourselves to think more positively. It all starts in our mind, as they say therefore, having positive thoughts for the day really helps in dealing with our daily situations in our life. The one question that’s most often asked is--how to start your day right? I always advise my clients to start their day by having positive thoughts. You could have the power to reverse the feelings of gloom and hopelessness when you begin to count your blessings.
I started my day in a positive mood but finished my coaching session feeling exhausted. Hearing other people’s woes and giving solutions to their problems are sometimes mind draining especially when it’s beyond my scope of expertise anymore. Just this day, a lady came to my office just to tell that I’m no good right at my face. She referred those words to me without batting an eyelash. My initial reaction was shock and I wondered why she came up with that conclusion without further ado. So I asked her and get her reason and hear her side of the story.
We sometimes are not aware that our words hurt. It just came from our mouth without thinking the effect of it to others. The weight of your words hurt more than an actual wound. You will suffer temporarily from the sting you feel in a cut and the discomfort just goes away after it was healed but the effect of scathing remark sticks in your mind and the pain goes on and on. The healing process is so slow and your suffering is too long to endure. Your recovery is unsure. The weight of words prolonged effect is like a big blow that hits harder than a wound or any physical misery.
When something bad happens to us, we have this tendency to have negative thoughts on our self and to other people. The incidents that have happened to us influence our thinking. This kind of thinking is self-destructing. It can create insecurity which started from your early experiences in life that came from your childhood. Do you still remember the things that had happened to you when you were a child? If you noticed, the things that you remember the most are the things that you experienced when you were still a child. In your young mind, those particular events in your life are registered vividly in your memory.
There are times that we may not notice it, but whatever we say to ourselves (even unintentionally) can give a drastic effect to some of the things we do every now and then and it also affects our way of life. So, how do you say things to yourself, or how do you explain some stuff to yourself? What do you think—with positive self talk or negative self talk? Think about it---though it can be convenient to tell yourself “I can’t do it”, “no way”, “that’s way out of the question”, and “another problem again”, do you think these statements can be helpful to you? Given below are just some of the typical examples that optimistic and pessimistic individuals usually say.
We all have heard or read that there is power and strength when it comes to thinking positive thoughts. Articles, books and magazine were written about it, and were also featured on several talk shows. Yes, I know maybe most if not, some of us are pretty doubting Thomases when the talk focuses on the power of positive thoughts. Well, personally, I believe in it and you can always choose what you believe since it is a free country, anyway. As they say, it all begins in your mind. So you might as well think positive thoughts to attract all the positivity and happy energies you can.
Almost all of us have been through a bad situation at some point in our lives. Of course, life is not all bed of roses and not everyday is a happy one. That's why it's a life-saver for us knowing that we're making the best out of a bad situation. 
