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Tags: self improvement, positive attitude, don't be a downer
 There's a reason why you've got friends--it's because they like you! So don't try to label yourself a Loser because nobody wants to hang out with a loser. Don't try to sound like you are your own worst enemy, because your friends are there for you.
Don't be a downer; if you hang out with your friends and update each other with your lives, instead of conveniently discussing about your current problems bombarding you, also try to talk about possible solutions to it. Don't forget that your friends are on your side (mostly), so they want to feel that you're also on your side, also.
Also, don't get stuck as a lifelong victim. It's okay to vent your frustration, your bitterness, your complaints, your despair, etc. While it may be true that you were mistreated as a victim before and life's been pretty unfair to you, then you can complain about it, but also try to balance your ranting session with how you're going to move on and rise beyond your bad experiences.
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Usually, people even admire those who have been tested by circumstances, but who were able to turn the tides of fate and rise beyond the odds and had bounce back from anything.
When you get together with your friends, too much complaining may drain them (are you always the first one to express dissatisfaction about bad waiters, rude taxi drivers, nasty food, etc?)
Do you often try to monopolize the conversations leading others to simply listen?
Do you neglect to ask your friends about how they're doing?
Do you endlessly ask for reassurance from them?
If you answer yes to these, well, you're not alone. It's normal to feel these way if you get pissed, annoyed or anxious. But if you keep on being like this on a constant basis, chances are, your friends will also get bored and your negativity might rub off on them and make them feel down also. Maybe next time you can be more 'refreshing' to your pals and you can change your attitude on seeing things as reality.
Remember, as much as you need your buddies, they also need you; you exchange energies from one another, so don't be a downer; you don't want to drain your friends' energies and be an emotional vampire--which you'd rather not be labeled as such, right?
About the author
The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a highly successful home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem. Learn more about this Quick-Action Plan and have a Fabulous Self Esteem.
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