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There are times that we may not notice it, but whatever we say to ourselves (even unintentionally) can give a drastic effect to some of the things we do every now and then and it also affects our way of life. So, how do you say things to yourself, or how do you explain some stuff to yourself? What do you think—with positive self talk or negative self talk? Think about it---though it can be convenient to tell yourself “I can’t do it”, “no way”, “that’s way out of the question”, and “another problem again”, do you think these statements can be helpful to you? Given below are just some of the typical examples that optimistic and pessimistic individuals usually say.
Try to observe the glaring difference, and try to do some positive self talk exercises, if you haven’t yet. Here now are some of the common examples of positive self talk. Okay for instance, when optimistic or positive people try to explain bad stuff or situations, they externalize them—“the traffic caused it”, view them as separated—“that portion of the diet did not work, but…”, and think of them as just temporary—“that was a difficult day”.
However, whenever they expound on the good side of the situation, these people try internalizing stuff. For example, they may say, “Wow, life is good!” Then, they tend to draw inferences from them—“My life is working out for the better”, and finally, they think of them to be somewhat lasting changes—“Now, I know how to work this out”.
Some of the most common positive self talk: “Yeah it rained, but the whole travel was still enjoyable.” “I know I can do this; I’ve done this before.” “It only went bad because of the traffic.” “This is by far one of the great parties I’ve been.” “It was quite difficult during that moment.” Examples of negative self talk.
“That business proposal was good, not like mine.” “Damn, I failed AGAIN.” “That did great, I think…” “I always screw up whenever I have a date.” “This fun will not last…count on it.” See the difference now? When pessimistic persons describe bad things, they try to internalize them—“Oh no, it’s my fault again”, generalize them—“Everything is a mess”, and think of them as fixed and long-lasting—“It always happens like this”.
And what about when they expound on the good stuff? That’s the time they externalize—“Well, that was just sheer luck, really”, they view them only in a particular setting or situation—“Now at least, this one I got it right.” And think of them as not permanent—“That is good, for now.” Now that you noticed that difference, don’t you think that you’d better switch to positive self talk instead? From now on, strive to explain stuff to yourself in a different manner, and there you’ll also see (and feel) a brand new difference in your mindset and attitude today.
Start making that positive self talk now a part of your life and a whole new you will emerge!
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The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a highly successful home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem. Learn more about this Quick-Action Plan and have a Fabulous Self Esteem.
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