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Maybe from your past you were a victim of negative programming . Perhaps you were in your formative adolescent stages, wherein you were only beginning to build your defenses, your identity, your sense of self.
And maybe even up until now! That somewhere somehow, somebody said it in your face: You are not worth it.
Parents, siblings, terror teachers, bullying classmates, jealous ex friends, insecure ex-lovers, envious co-workers, nasty neighbors, or just any random person may have one way or another let you believe that: You're not worth it; I say, never mind.
Let them believe what they want to believe, but you're out to prove them wrong!
It's not a perfect world out there, and not all people we encounter are nice loving individuals, and some may test us, damage our self worth, some are merely distractions, some may even make us learn some lessons in life--though admittedly, we don't like them, because one way or another, we are entirely different from them!
But allow me to tell you that as your self improvement coach, for all those who implanted on your brain that you're not worth it (coz you're just an insignificant entity in the world out to vanish somebody and may not leave a mark--at all,), you always have the choice to let them believe that they're so wrong in making you feel insignificant to even reach for that elusive star and one day, you're going to prove them wrong in telling you that you're not worth it!
So they thought that you're not even capable of doing what you always dreamed of! You know that way better than what they only think of you.
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As young kids, we were taught to just say no and we do it anytime we feel like it. Bu as time goes by, we tend to abuse it, so we just say no just like that--no ifs or buts.
Then You Get Older, More Experienced, And Hopefully Wiser.
You learn about manners, good moral and right conduct. You learned that sometimes you have to compromise, to do things you don't normally want to do willingly. You realized that other people's feelings matter; and you need to look at them before making decisions.
What you don't always get is how to finding harmony between what you can offer to others and also doing for yourself.
It's great to offer support to others and sacrifice some things once in a while, yet giving your all to everyone eventually won't work.
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Well now, look at you--have you forgotten that you're unique? Sometimes, it's more than your looks, your personality or even your talents. Who knows, it was your heart, your passion, your kindness, your zest for living or even your your never-say-die attitude despite your countless defeats.
Most people dear to you couldn't care less if you're far from perfect. They may even feel warm up to your cute folly and relate to your occasional ridiculous mistakes. Who needs perfection if you can't relate to them anyway?
Some can speak better than you do, could look better than you. Some are taller than you, most possess that impeccable taste in fashion than you, some makes more money than you (and busy spending them), then some are simply busy travelling the world than you and I can go on and on.
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In life, there are no guarantees. And confident people surely know this that's why they constantly try and make attempts come what may. Sure there are times which they fail or they may fall short of everyone's expectations, but that's not going to deter them from trying all over again and pursue what they want. In fact, it will all the more challenge them as confident people thrive on challenges and make them even more resilient.
Most of us, we know what we want but are hindered by our imagined fear of the unknown, waiting for permission, waiting for the right time.
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Of course, we all made some mistakes in our past and if you remember them, it can be painful, regretful or even embarrassing.
Just like your bag, if you keep opening up your past mistakes and carry it with here and there, what will you see? Usually, a barrage of sad or bad memories keep creeping up on you. Instead of hoping for a new you, You can't seem to move on and enjoy the present.
You keep holding on to a bag filled with past errors, you always seem to say, "Oh my, what a mess I've done in my life!" Then, some other days again, you still keep on lugging that bag of pasts with you and repeatedly opening it again and again and you sigh; rehashing the same mistakes again for the nth time.
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We all get nervous from time to time. Have you ever felt intimidated or scared of others,? Good news: Most of them are also like you--scared as a puppy.
For example, you see a glamorous actress on screen, and you gushed, "wow, I wish I can be like her, admired, popular, successful, with lots of ardent fans." But if you only hear what their innermost thoughts, they can say, "My fans think I have it made!" She looks at herself and worries about that zit in her forehead and agonizes about when her next project is going to be--or if there's any upcoming projects lined up for her.
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Things To Say To Set Your Personal Boundaries
Setting your own personal boundaries is important so that you'll avoid becoming a doormat, keeping your self-esteem intact, and saying no without feeling guilty. After all, you are taking care of your personal needs, as each of us do, so, why feel guilty saying no to some things you can't commit to?
When you set personal boundaries for yourself, you fortify your inner shield, knowing you can stand up for yourself and most of all, you don't have to be pressured to please others (which most of the time, you don't even like).
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Do You Know That Our Imperfections Are What Makes Us Beautiful?
Angelina Jolie's bulging veins in her arms, Lindsay Lohan's freckles, and Megan Fox's thumb. Yes, guys--some of the most heavenly creatures you considered beautiful are not all...perfect.
If you think about what makes us beautiful, it can be our imperfections--those same things which makes us less perfect and unique. If you look at someone with perfect symmetry, bone structure and ideal proportions, sure, they can be eye-catching and surely attractive, but it can get boring sometimes, looking at them for such a long time. Sure, they captivate attention and make people take a second look, but that's it--after a while, it's no longer interesting, gradually, it becomes predictable.
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Do You Find It Difficult To Earn Someone's Trust?
Maybe it's the aura or 'look' you project, or its' your personality. But if we go deeper beyond surface issues, trusting someone is simply more than just meets the eye. They say that you can't get anyone's trust--you have to earn it. Some find it easy to have faith in someone that easily, while others are too wary in trusting someone.
*Take note that you can't earn someone's trust overnight. The more you spend some time together (bonding), the more you build and establish rapport with one another.
*You got to treat everyone the same respect as you want to be treated.
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Do You Know That Being Confident Affects Other People?
And not just being confident--some other human emotions also. And why is that, you ask-- it's because we as human beings normally take in some of the emotions of people we're in contact with or those whom we saw. After that, we experience a change in our own mood though you know that nothing major good/bad has occurred to you, in reality.
Let's see...you may feel bad after watching a sad movie or watching tragic news. You may feel giddy in love all over again while watching a romantic movie. Why oh why do you feel these way? It's because at some point in you life, you experienced the same thing the character conveys the moment that scene rolls onscreen.
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