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Tags: self improvement, self esteem, gaining self respect
 At first glance, the terms “self respect” and “self esteem” might be very alike and at times confusing, yet they are two very dissimilar things. Most especially if they are fostered at a young age, these terms can have different results and effects to an individual. Over the past few years, it became very accepted and all the rage amongst child specialists to acclaim self esteem as the answer to all our problems and dilemmas when it comes to bringing up our kids.
These experts have actually promoted and supported numerous teachers, parents, counselors and guardians to enhance and cultivate sense of worth in children. Perhaps you’ve already heard it a thousand times in your life; having low self esteem is bad, and acquiring high or healthy self esteem is good. So what will be the effects or outcome in the long run? Self esteem just means to think of oneself in high regard.
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Several psychologists and child experts feel that by giving a child with tons and tons of praises and compliments, he or she would grow up to be a mature, independent, confident and optimistic adult. There is really nothing wrong with that, yet occasionally, the search for confidence could also lead to, like “doing your own stuff”, so in a sense may also become an issue or an excuse of being vainglorious, conceited or being unsociable to a varying degree.
And that is often the thing in this confidence issue: there is a very thin line between being confident and independent to being misconstrued as being shallow, arrogant and uncaring—some negative behaviors often developed if there’s overconfidence in a person and often it’s left unchecked. While self respect, on the other hand, is similar to the universal golden rule: if we want respect, then we must also respect other people—as simple as that; you get what you give.
Gaining self respect is by building up respect for other persons and not merely by being praised, complimented or being constantly told how brilliant or a great human being you are. It actually covers respect not only for ourselves alone, but also in respect for other people. It is in this realization that when we got self respect in us, we really value ourselves more but not to the extent of being overly condescending and “oh-so full of himself” type of person.
Self respect is a way of thinking which makes us to be more modest, be well-balanced and adjusted and be more thankful for whatever we have in our lives. Some of my friends have experienced that most persons who practically grew up with a barrage of flattery and being consistently praised of their “greatness” do not really make a lot of friends and are not that fun to be around, as they observed.
Nevertheless, some individuals who have been brought up to care for others and not just themselves in general, are likely to be just the kind of persons we want to spend our time with.
About the author
The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a highly successful home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem. Learn more about this Quick-Action Plan and have a Fabulous Self Esteem.
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