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Tags: self improvement, self esteem, how to ovecome jealousy
 They say don't compare yourself to others because have no idea what their journey is all about. Today's blog is about jealousy or envy. Though feeling jealous is normal, it's a negative reaction which makes us more inadequate and dissatisfied. The problem with feeling this way is that, if we feel jealous, we make ourselves small and others big--in our own eyes.
It's important to learn how to overcome jealousy coz, do you really think it's appropriate (or fair) to feel unhappy for someone just because they feel happy? Really, it all boils down to self esteem again.
Here are some ways in overcoming jealousy:
1) Stop comparing yourself to others. Have you heard of the saying, "I was complaining that I didn't have shoes, until I found a man without feet"? Overcoming jealousy is about counting your blessings and being grateful for what you got rather than complaining for what you lack.
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Think and thank even those basic things you got that others may only be dreaming of. Overcoming jealousy is thanking about the things you already have--your family, your good friends, your education, a house, a good job, your stunning looks (wow), the food you eat, being free and independent (which means you can always go after your dreams and the life you've been dreaming of)...and you can add to the list if you want.
2) What they have is not really what you want. Overcoming jealousy will make you realize that we all have different needs and wants. So basically, no need to get envious of your neighbor's hot boyfriend if you're already happily and passionately in love with your husband.
When other people have what we don't, just remind yourself if you really need/want that stuff. Sometimes, we might get envious of what others have, only to realize that it's not in line with our goals, or not really what we want.
3) Lastly, overcoming jealousy is realizing that you can't have it all. If you really want something, be willing to sacrifice to get it. So, before you get envious of your favorite star's success, just think of all those trade-offs and sacrifices she has to go through just to be where she's at and enjoying her fame. Plus, they have to work hard for it. Some of them wished for a normal life like yours, you know, like wishing they finished college or spending more time with their families. See, if you think that they're blessed because they got something you don't, you also got things they wished they have.
So, get up and start overcoming jealousy now. I'm sure you have more reasons to live rather than get jealous.
About the author
The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a highly successful home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem. Learn more about this Quick-Action Plan and have a Fabulous Self Esteem.
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