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Tags: self improvement, stress management, how to deal with emotional vampires
 What are emotional vampires? They are those people who drain your energy and suck the life out of you--hence, they're called vampires.
Actually, there are many types of emotional vampires. They are the following: the controller, the drama queen or king, the narcissistic, the victim, and the criticizer. Take note that these terms described their approach in life and their
behavior.
The controller type is the one who always dominates or rules over you. Often, they order you on how to live your life. Being with them makes you feel trapped and ineffective.
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The drama queen/king however, wants to hog the limelight all the time. They adore attention and are prone to tantrums and outbursts when they don't get what they want.
The narcissistic needs to be constantly praised and complimented. They frequently steer the conversation to center on them. You feel invisible and compelled to praise him just to feed his narcissistic ego.
The victim, on the other hand, is always needy, dwells on self-pity and agony. They often feel like the whole world is against them, and feel they're victims of fate or bad luck.
The criticizer, on the other hand, obviously, is the highly critical one and is always giving his opinions and judges people most of the time.
So how to deal with emotional vampires?
You have to understand that these emotional vampires often feel that they're missing something so they turn to other people for love, attention, acceptance, validation, etc. If you can limit socializing with them, so much the better. Try to distance yourself (both emotionally and mentally) from their behavior. If you have to respond to them, maintain your composure and stay calm. Answer them with a matter-of-fact tone, but remember to breath deeply before speaking back. Just tell yourself that these emotional vampires' intention is to get a reaction from you. If you have to listen to them, try not to let their words or behavior affect you. Also, be aware of how you feel about these emotional vampires in your midst. Do you feel weak, tense, embarrassed, uneasy, pressured, trapped etc.? If negative feelings surmount, try your best to separate yourself from the situation as soon as you can
before they can drain or annoy you. If emotional vampires throw tantrums and outbursts, just visualize that you're dealing with a child. Lastly, decide if it's best to cut them off your life--end your relationship with emotional vampires.
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The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been
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